The New Family

Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Relationships

DUMB Stuff People Do: Give an Ultimatum in a Relationship. “I gave him a marriage ultimatum — we divorced two years later.

Um, yeah, that is never going to work out favorably, and even if it did, why would he want to be with someone that gave him an ultimatum? Moreover, dear author, why would you want to be with him if you could bully him into [fill in the blank]? His acquiescence would only decrease your respect and increase your contempt for him.

It would also burden his future decision making and self respect. No one likes a despot. 

Dad’s advice is to spend some time in meaningful introspection before entering into a relationship. Know yourself, proceed slowly, and be willing and able to respectfully end it before committing too many resources to it. Then, if you do proceed to make a commitment, honor it.